Message from Prince Eric
WELCOME TO THIS MAGIC MONDAY MOMENT
Kicking off your week with some thoughts around a favorite Disney quote (because in my world - Disney is life!).
original message date: 05/29/23
Happy Monday!
It’s true. I’m a sucker for a good rom-com and a movie with a happily ever after (eh hem – I’m looking at you, Disney). I know that surrounding ourselves with people that bring us joy, make our heart sing and support who we are and what we do makes life that much more enjoyable (and I’m not talking only about the romantic relationships…).
Take Disney’s animated feature, “The Little Mermaid”, for example. When Prince Eric realized that Ariel was the one who saved him during the storm at sea, he said this:
And we know the rest of the story. It’s a good one for sure.
That quote also speaks to what someone might think when they get validation for who they are from an external source.
But what if you took Prince Eric’s quote and said it to, well, yourself?
It’s a pretty human thing to seek external approval, validation and perceived completeness (Jerry McGuire didn’t do us any favors). There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting others to like us, make us feel good, or add extra joy to our lives.
Where it can be problematic is when we seek ONLY the external acceptance so we can feel good about ourselves. When we need others to be proud of us, like what we are doing and give us kudos in order to feel accomplished, valid or worthy. For example:
→ A ‘good’ performance review from the boss means I’m a good leader, a ‘poor’ performance review means I’m not.
→ The number of likes on my social post equates to how much people like me and/or how good I am at what I do.
→ When giving a presentation to the organization, if there is a lot of talkative participation, that means they like what I’m doing. If there is little participation, it means I’m not a good presenter.
But what would it be like if YOU were the one you sought acceptance from?
When you are in self-belief and self-love – you don’t need it from anyone else. When you are aware of and embrace your own strengths, gifts, worthiness and even ‘shortcomings’ - you have the power to accept and shift when it makes sense. The validating responses from others will just be the cherry on top. And when you don’t get it – you know that there could be a million reasons why – most of which have nothing to do with you. It won’t shake you (at least not to an unhealthy level).
And when you operate from the place of you being the one you are looking for – that energy will be felt by others.
You don’t have to look so far – simply start with you.
And enjoy the freedom it gives you.
Over the next week – notice when you are looking to the external for acceptance, validation and worthiness. How do you feel if you don’t get what you are hoping for? How can you give that to yourself?
Wishing you a wonderful week. You've got this!
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