Message from Grimsby
WELCOME TO THIS MAGIC MONDAY MOMENT
Kicking off your week with some thoughts around a favorite Disney quote (because in my world - Disney is life!).
original message date: 07/31/23
Happy Monday!
I don’t usually label words as ‘dangerous’, but there are a few that come pretty close. One of those words is: should.
Prince Eric’s faithful guardian and confident advisor, Grimsby, seemed to agree when he said this to Prince Eric in the 2023 live action version of the film “The Little Mermaid”:
Do you catch yourself using “should” when talking about yourself (let alone when talking about others)? It might sound something like:
• I should be happier.
• I should be richer.
• I should be at a healthier weight.
• I should be in a higher-level position.
• I should be doing [this].
• I should have done [that].
The word should is harmful to your relationship with yourself and others, because it essentially makes someone ‘wrong’. The word should is used to indicate obligation or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions, performance, or results. “Should-ing” on yourself can certainly hold you back because it just doesn’t feel good.
Here is what I believe...I believe that your current situation is exactly as it should be. Do you know how I know?
Because it is where you are. It is what is happening now.
If you WANT it to be different – then you can make it so. But by flavoring the situation with the ‘shoulds’ – it becomes tainted with failure. And how do you feel when think of yourself as a failure? Probably not very good.
Usually - a less than pleasant feeling leads to less than helpful actions….creating less than desirable results.
SIDE NOTE: Failure also has an upside. To hear more, check out Episode 74: Embracing Failure
Just imagine what your life would be like if there was more focus on what is now and the possibilities for the future versus the self-imposed ‘shoulds’.
I like what I see. How about you?
When you hear yourself focus on the shoulds - answer a few questions: • Why SHOULD you? Who told you so? Do you like those reasons? • If you think you should – why didn’t you or aren’t you? Is there an obstacle you can work to overcome? • What are you missing out on in your current situation because you’re putting your focus on what ‘should’ be?
Wishing you a wonderful week. You've got this!
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